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  • Published: 14 January 2021
  • ISBN: 9781473569249
  • Imprint: Vintage Digital
  • Format: EBook
  • Pages: 256

Some Body to Love

A Family Story

A life-affirming and important memoir about the changing shape of gender and society from a popular and beloved author

'A treatise on empathy and grace in extraordinary circumstances' Jojo Moyes
What does it mean to be a woman? To live in a woman's body?
Alexandra Heminsley thought she knew, but then her world turned inside out. Having just resurfaced from fertility issues, childbirth and early parenthood, she was told her then-husband was going to transition.

Some Body to Love is Alex's profoundly open-hearted memoir about losing a partner but gaining a best friend, and together bringing up a baby in a changing world. By baring her own unique scars, Heminsley makes a vital manifesto on the unifying resilience that can be found in modern motherhood.


Praise for Some Body to Love:
'Insightful and wise, generous and kind' David Nicholls
'A brave, thoughtful and timely book' Naomi Alderman
'A testament to how family and love can be whatever shape we want them to be' Red
'It took my breath away' Bryony Gordon
'A book with a wild, deep, joyous, tender love of people at its heart' Emma Jane Unsworth

  • Published: 14 January 2021
  • ISBN: 9781473569249
  • Imprint: Vintage Digital
  • Format: EBook
  • Pages: 256

About the author

Alexandra Heminsley

Alexandra Heminsley is a journalist, broadcaster and ghostwriter. She lives in Brighton.

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Praise for Some Body to Love

A sensitively written, wise and joyful look at the way that families can crack apart and then reconfigure... [Heminsley's] telling of their family tale is so warm, observant, and kind, and perfectly illustrates how malleable love can be

Farming Life

A brave, thoughtful and timely book -- calming and inspiring on our different relationships with our bodies, and vitally compassionate on trans rights

Naomi Alderman

Breathtakingly honest, warm and generous, Some Body To Love is a testament to how family and love can be whatever shape we want them to be

Sarra Manning, Red

Insightful and wise, generous and kind

David Nicholls

A treatise on empathy and grace in extraordinary circumstances

Jojo Moyes

It took my breath away . . . It's such a beautiful book, so full of compassion and kindness even in its furious honesty . . . You are going to love it

Bryony Gordon

A book about how a personal crisis caused someone to open up rather than shut down . . . really admirable and carefully done . . . on bodies, families, gender identity, bravery

Amy Liptrot

This memoir is going to change a lot of people's lives, and I think it's going to change the conversation

Damian Barr, Big Scottish Book Club

Wise, kind, funny, sad and beautifully written. Everyone who occupies a human body should read it

Erin Kelly

Fabulous . . . Sensitively and cleverly written . . . remarkable

Judy Murray

The most moving and real account of a person's relationship with their body I have ever read... A book with a wild, deep, joyous, tender love of people at its heart

Emma Jane Unsworth

A much needed clarion call for greater empathy, compassion and respect for humanity

Daisy Buchanan

Alexandra Heminsley understands what it is to be a woman in a world that judges us, our bodies, and the experience of these bodies, in every way and at all times... Charting her journey to her own body through loss, heartache and trauma, alongside love, friendship and hope, she suggests that each of us might find our own way to embody our deepest truths, and that we might do so with generosity to others on their own journey

Stella Duffy

A gorgeous open-hearted read but also a vital, instructive one

Caroline Sanderson, Bookseller

A raw, heartbreaking, uplifting memoir about reinvention, being a woman and love in all its forms. An important book, beautifully written

Kate Davies, author of In at the Deep End

Heartbreak and happiness sit in tandem in Alexandra Heminsley's wise and generous book.

Eithne Farry, Daily Mirror

A vital call for compassion and awareness...a hugely hopeful and deftly written book - and one that might encourage greater empathy in how we respond to all kinds of difference

Gwendolyn Smith

[Heminsley] writes with unflinching clarity

Brian Morton, Tablet

Staggering... Heminsley is unflinching in her exploration of her feelings.

Daisy Goodwin, Sunday Times

[An] insightful memoir

Joanne Finney, Good Housekeeping

Bracingly honest...big-hearted... [and] page-turningly compelling

Holly Williams, Observer

Generous, calm and thoughtful... Some Body to Love argues cogently for greater openness and understanding towards different gender expressions...also page-turningly compelling

Holly Williams, Observer

This insightful memoir covers some hefty subjects -- gender identity, body image, infertility, divorce -- with wisdom and grace

Good Housekeeping

Some Body To Love is an honest and thoughtful memoir that touches on difficult contemporary topics . . . Incredibly moving and very, very powerfu


A powerful treatise on pain and love, this is an honest, moving and authentic examination of the end of a relationship, and the way our lives can fracture and recover from sudden, seismic shifts. Heminsley's writing is sharply resonant - you don't have to share her experiences to be struck by her observations about letting go with love, and how we can find strength in self-love too

SheerLuxe, *Books of the Year*

Jaw-dropping... This is an extraordinary, kind, and generous book about what it means to live in a woman's body and the questions you ask yourself along the way.

Independent, *Books of the Year*

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