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  • Published: 2 January 2018
  • ISBN: 9781784705282
  • Imprint: Vintage
  • Format: Paperback
  • Pages: 144
  • RRP: $19.99

You Will Not Have My Hate




The international bestseller - a heartbreaking, inspiring memoir about a man and his baby son dealing with unbearable loss

'A beacon of hope in a dark world' Cathy Rentzenbrink, The Pool

One night in November 2015, when Antoine Leiris was at home looking after his baby son, his wife Hélène was killed, along with 88 other people, at the Bataclan Theatre in Paris. Three days later, Antoine wrote an open letter to his wife’s killers on Facebook. He refused to be cowed or to let his baby son’s life be defined by their acts. ‘For as long as he lives, this little boy will insult you with his happiness and freedom,’ he wrote. Instantly, that short post caught fire and was shared thousands of times around the world. An extraordinary and heartbreaking memoir, You Will Not Have My Hate is a universal message of hope and resilience in our troubled times.

  • Pub date: 2 January 2018
  • ISBN: 9781784705282
  • Imprint: Vintage
  • Format: Paperback
  • Pages: 144
  • RRP: $19.99

About the Author

Antoine Leiris

A former cultural commentator for France Info and France Bleu, Antoine Leiris is a journalist in Paris. You Will Not Have My Hate is his first book.


Praise for You Will Not Have My Hate

“A blazingly beautiful memoir… A glimmer of hope in the dark.”

Rachel Joyce, Observer, Books of the Year

“A blazingly beautiful memoir… A glimmer of hope in the dark.”

Rachel Joyce, Observer, Books of the Year

“A beacon of hope in a dark world”

Cathy Rentzenbrink, The Pool

“An astonishing feat… I defy anyone not to shed tears at least once when reading this book.”

Sunday Times

“A book of exceptional grace...the most extraordinary account of an emotional journey”

Observer

“An extraordinary read, honest, intimate and lightly poetic. It is a testament of love, loss and grief and also the often untold story of those who are left behind and must find a way to go on”

Irish Independent

“A book for our times”

Mark Lawson, Guardian, Books of the Year

“Defiant and powerful...Leiris shows us, poignantly and movingly, how the absence of Helene opens up for him and his son.”

The Times

“Incredible, informative, very powerful… Beautifully written… I felt so touched by it and changed by it, so I thank you for writing it. I hope it finds a huge audience. I can’t recommend it highly enough… A beautiful piece of work”

Jonathan Ross, Radio 2 Arts Show

“One of the most enduring and memorable messages after the deadly attack on Paris's Bataclan theater was written by journalist Antoine Leiris. This bracing, courageous, and utterly beautiful book shows us that he had much more to say”

Elle.com

“The man whose words have inspired millions.”

BBC News

“An extraordinarily moving book”

Mirror

“Tissues at the ready, because though this book be little, it is FIERCE… No fluff. No forgiveness. No forgetting. I read it in one brief sitting, lying in the bath, tears dripping into the water.”

Pool

“This is a soliloquy not only on grief but on love, a raw but controlled cry of fury and defiance against a senseless killing, and a touching addition to the rich tradition of writing about loss.”

Caroline Moorehead, Times Literary Supplement

“Poignant”

Grazia

“It is simple and immediate, and is all about love and loss… an astonishing feat”

Sunday Times

“Very intimate and full of love”

Belfast Telegraph

“I am impressed by his responsiveness, the nuanced intelligence with which he speaks.”

Kate Kellaway, Guardian

“Courageous and inspirational, without a wasted word”

Kirkus

“What he makes me see is how the personal is a possession and that this is especially true for everyone involved in the Bataclan tragedy because the personal was – and still is – in danger of being swamped by the public story of international terrorism.”

Kate Kellaway, Observer

“He had deliberately retreated from the world that was talking incessantly about the slaughter… If Antoine refused to give his hate to the men who killed his wife and so many others, he also refuses to give them space in his life and that of his now two-year-old son.”

Joe O'Shea, Belfast Telegraph Morning

“He looked at the words on the screen as the news networks competed to find words to describe the events: massacre, carnage, bloodbath. He wanted to scream, but couldn’t because of Melvil… Initially resistant to spending time with fellow mourners, Antoine discovered that there is a kind of brotherhood, a feeling of recognition, that can provide consolation.”

Cathy Rentzenbrink, Pool

“[A] beautifully written memoir… It’s the hardest book you can pick up this year, but also the most affecting.”

GQ

“It is a personal account of the aftershock following the atrocity. Yet there is no gore, no torture, no scene-setting, no facts putting the Isis-claimed retaliation in context, no second-hand reports of what happened inside the theatre… Instead, it is simple and immediate, and is all about love and loss… This book may also be Leiris’s way of just holding it together. One feels he is writing as the man he was before that November day that changed everything… It is the literary equivalent of smelling her clothes every night before attempting to sleep.”

Helen Davies, Sunday Times

“A book for our times.”

Mark Lawson, Guardian, Book of the Year

“This book is a love song to Hélène, a promise to Melvil and a resolution not to be defeated by chaos and barbarity. It is a stunning mission statement.”

Claire Looby, Irish Times

“This heartbreaking and beautifully written memoir lays bare the terrible chronology of grief, but it is also a testimony to the power of love and hope.”

Jane Shilling, Daily Mail

“It’s an agonising account of those first few days, in which the lives of father and son changed forever. Despite the haste with which it was written, every word is chosen with care and charged with meaning, a raw and honest memoir of grief which can’t fail to move all who read it.”

Alastair Mabbott, Herald Scotland


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