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  • Published: 19 May 2020
  • ISBN: 9780141986432
  • Imprint: Penguin Press
  • Format: Paperback
  • Pages: 272
  • RRP: $22.99

What Dementia Teaches Us About Love




A powerful and moving exploration of the terrible illness that touches millions of lives

After her own father's death from dementia, the writer and campaigner Nicci Gerrard set out to explore the illness that now touches millions of us, yet which we still struggle to speak about. What is it to be oneself, and what is it to lose one's self. Who are we when we are not ourselves, and where do we go?

This is book is an attempt to understand thorough a touching exploration of dementia, structured around the stages of the disease from the outside and, as far as possible, from the inside as well. Full of people's stories, both sad and optimistic, it is a journey into the dusk and then the darkness - and then out on to the other side, where, once someone is dead, a life can be seen whole again.

  • Published: 19 May 2020
  • ISBN: 9780141986432
  • Imprint: Penguin Press
  • Format: Paperback
  • Pages: 272
  • RRP: $22.99

About the author

Nicci Gerrard

Nicci Gerrard writes for the Observer and is the co-author, with Susan French, of the bestselling Nicci French thrillers. She lives in Suffolk with her husband and four children. Her first solo novel, Things We Knew Were True, was published by Penguin in 2003 and received rave reviews. This is her second novel.

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Praise for What Dementia Teaches Us About Love

Essential reading about love, life and care

Kate Mosse, author of Labyrinth

Gerrard writes beautifully, encyclopaedically and with humanity

Nicholas Timmins, senior fellow at the Institute for Government and the King's Fund, honorary fellow of Royal College of Physicians, author of Five Giants

Evocative and powerful, shining a light on a world which is often hidden and misunderstood

Jane Cummings, Chief Nursing Officer for England

Gerrard ranges widely and wisely, raising questions about what it is to be human and facing truths too deep for tears

Blake Morrison, poet and author of And When Did You Last See Your Father?

Nicci Gerrard exudes understanding of the breadth, scale and complexity of the dementias and the challenges they pose for society. Yet she communicates simply, personally and practically as if speaking individually to each of us

Sebastian Crutch, Professor of Neuropsychology, Dementia Research Centre, University College London

Nicci Gerrard writes with power, insight, empathy and extraordinary beauty about the world of dementia . . . and demonstrates how we can address the fear, despair and ignorance that has accompanied its spread

Paul Webster, editor of the Observer

Nobody has written on dementia as well as Nicci Gerrard in this new book. Kind, knowing and infinitely useful

Andrew Marr

This is a tender, lyrical, profound, urgent book . . . Gerrard has penned a treatise on what it is to be human

Yasmin Alibhai-Brown, columnist and author

Immensely powerful . . . an incisive and compelling read. Gerrard, a crime novelist and former journalist, visits the "fresh hell" of hospitals across the UK, and interviews sufferers and those whose lives have been indelibly shaped by the diagnosis of a loved one . . . As well as being part-memoir and part-reportage, What Dementia Teaches Us About Love is also a great part philosophical inquiry into the nature of self and what it is to be human.

The Sunday Times

An extraordinarily luminous book, at once terribly sad and frightening but also somehow hopeful and energising.

Nick Duerden, Independent

Immensely powerful . . . shot through with insights. Gerrard's book is an elegant yet devastating interrogation into this fatal loss of self, and is part-reportage, part-philosophical inquiry, but, above all, intensely personal.

Helen Davies, The Sunday Times (Books of the Year)

A profound and powerful exploration of how society interprets and deals with a health challenge that will only deepen over the coming decades

Anjana Ahuja, Financial Times (Essential Reads 2019)

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