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The Life You Want
  • Published: 28 January 2026
  • ISBN: 9780241766118
  • Imprint: Hamish Hamilton
  • Format: Hardback
  • Pages: 160
  • RRP: $45.00

The Life You Want

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28 Jan 2026
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29 Jan 2026
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From acclaimed psychoanalyst Adam Phillips, a meditation on how to achieve the lives we want

Where do we get ideas about the lives we want? And, what do we do – and fail to do – about actually getting them?

In The Life You Want Adam Phillips uses psychoanalytic and literary approaches to show that we are obsessed by the idea of our lives being ones we want and enjoy rather than merely endure, tolerate or make the most of.

Through a series of interlinked essays, Phillips explores the difficulties we have around the whole idea of enjoying – and fashioning – our lives in cultures that insistently promote enjoyment while making it very difficult for so many people. Exploring the personal and political overlap in the issue of our lives, The Life You Want is a profound examination of our ambivalence about enjoyment, and indeed, wanting.
  • Published: 28 January 2026
  • ISBN: 9780241766118
  • Imprint: Hamish Hamilton
  • Format: Hardback
  • Pages: 160
  • RRP: $45.00
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Praise for The Life You Want

[Reading The Life You Want] is like having a deep chat with your brainiest friend . . . The title may sound like classic January self-help, but let's be clear: Phillips is not actually going to teach you how to get the Life You Want. Rather than giving us a list of improving life hacks he sets off interesting trains of thought about what a good life might look like, and leaves us to do with them what we will . . . Writing like this opens things up, broadens life out - it is the antidote to scrolling through endless January wellbeing advice. Go on, I dare you: pick it up and take your brain for a spin

The Times

If psychoanalysis has a rock star, it’s Adam Phillips. The London-based shrink is the quiet confessor to the city’s artists and writers—and a cultural figure in his own right—best known for books with titles that sound suspiciously enjoyable for someone paid to dissect the psyche: Going Sane, On Giving Up, On Kissing, Tickling, and Being Bored. His latest, The Life You Want, offers no five-step plan to happiness. Instead, it asks the irritatingly good question: Why are you so desperate for a better life in the first place?

Hermione Lee, Interview Magazine