A revolutionary self-help book for gay men and the wider community which acknowledges the damage done to gay people by societal shame across the world, and the urgent need to put in place systems that offer help to the many hundreds of thousands who need it.
Written by Matthew Todd, editor-in-chief of Attitude, the UK's biggest-selling gay magazine,Turning Point is a revolutionary self-help book for gay men which began life as an article in Attitude. Following the massive response from readers, Matthew used his article as the basis for his keynote address at the Terrence Higgins Trust annual conference, where it was met with a standing ovation.
Groundbreaking in its approach, Turning Point looks beneath the shiny facade of contemporary gay culture and confronts the harsh truths and realities facing many gay men today. Frank and uncompromising, it looks at...
* why gay people suffer from disproportionately high rates of depression, addictions, suicidal thoughts and behaviour, and how many experience great difficulty in sustaining meaningful relationships...
* how growing up in the closet can overwhelm the gay child with a deep shame that derails the development of self esteem, and explains how problems emerge in adulthood in diverse ways...
* how gay men overcompensate for gay shame by pursuing unobtainable perfection - aspiring to have perfect bodies, boyfriends, lives - and how gay culture, which celebrates drug abuse, body fascism and sex addiction, is built on this collective shame which serves to compound the problems.
Offering practical solutions to difficult problems, and advice on how gay men can find happiness, self-fulfillment and secure relationships, Turning Point recognizes that this is a watershed moment - and a wake-up-call-to-arms for the gay and wider community to acknowledge the damage done to gay people by societal shame across the world. It also recognizes the vital importance of putting into place systems that offer help and support to the many hundreds of thousands who need it.
“This is an essential read for every gay person on the planet.”
“An essential book... Part sociological polemic and part self-help book, it zones in on some of the issues that disproportionately affect the gay community, from depression and anxiety to drug and alcohol addiction and body and eating disorders. I found myself both deeply upset and hugely relieved by its candour. After reading the book, tender as it is, you can’t help but want to share your own experiences. Consider Straight Jacket a call to arms.”
“Matthew Todd thought he had long since dealt with the demons surrounding his sexuality. In [his] new book, he reveals the crisis of shame facing the gay community – and how to solve it.”
“Straight Jacket documents Todd’s own childhood experiences, and the long-term mental health and addiction issues he has suffered; he is also using it to call for a government inquiry into the experiences of LGBT children at school.”
“Matthew Todd dares to shine a light on the dark legacy of gay shame [and] it’s not a pretty sight…There are some uncomfortable and downright terrifying truths to be confronted in Todd’s brilliant, essential new book. It’s difficult to underestimate the importance of Straight Jacket. If you are struggling and want help and don’t know where to look, this book is a great place to start. But even if you’re not, [it] is by far one of the most important books you’ll read this year.”
Gay Community News Ireland
“Todd doesn’t hold back in calling for a shift both outside and inside the gay community. He calls out hook-up apps such as Grindr, the 'mean girls' persona that so many gay men adopt, and the gay press itself… Straight Jacket isn’t just a self-help book. It’s a resource for anyone with an interest in knowing what needs to change to bring about real equality... For that, Matthew Todd has another reason to be proud.”
“Cannot put it down… a book like this is long overdue.”
“An honest and perceptive book.”
Owen Jones, The Guardian
“A smashing book.”
“Excellent… A valuable contribution to mental health and a must read.”
Dr Christian Jessen
“One of the most powerful books, sensitively and elegantly written, I think, that I have ever read.”
Lord Michael Cashman CBE
“The book everyone is talking about… This is probably the most important thing I’ll ever read as a gay man. Full of profundity and fearless honesty.”
Youtuber Calum McSwiggan
“It’s an important book. I had to read it right through. It tackles some tough issues and is searingly honest”
“I got so much out of that book and I know a lot of people have. It’s helping a lot of people. It’s a bible.”
Performance artist David Hoyle
“I’m about to read Straight Jacket for a second time. Brilliant, important, inspiring, brave.”
Rucomingout.com's Wayne Dhesi
“An honest insight into LGBTQ life that everybody should be enlightened about regardless of sexuality.”
“This powerful book, I believe, will save lives. I’d like to see every gay man read this.”
Juno Dawson, The Guardian
“A superb book… Have read it twice now.”
Oliver Thring, Times journalist
“The book we should all be talking about.”
“Thank you for writing this book. It is a must read.”
Activist Bisi Alimi
“One of the best books we have ever read. Honest, thought provoking and much needed.”
Q Scene magazine
“Finally started to read Straight Jacket. I’m already blown away. An incredibly honest and insightful read. Bravo Matthew.”
Journalist Tom Knight
“This book should have been written a long time ago, but it wasn't...Everyone, no matter what their background, will benefit from reading this book. A much-needed and healing work of tough love, written with love.”
“A sensitive subject, brilliantly and intelligently handled.”
“If only this had been written twenty years ago I can only imagine the lives that could have been saved sooner. This is a hugely important book for everyone. It's changed the way I see myself, other people and the world.”
“Straight Jacket is a really brilliant and moving read for everybody especially LGBTQ+ people. Thanks Matthew.”
Years and Years singer Olly Alexander
“An excoriating book, Straight Jacket: How to be Gay and Happy delves into contemporary gay culture to address a plethora of issues gay people continue to face in 2016.”
“There are some uncomfortable and downright terrifying truths in Todd’s brilliant, essential new book... It’s difficult to underestimate the importance of Straight Jacket. It’s fundamentally a call to arms, a wide-ranging, desperately heartfelt cri de coeur… The gay community needs to look at ways of taking better care of itself, being nicer to each other and offering and providing support when it’s needed.”
Gay Community News, Dublin