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  • Published: 15 March 2021
  • ISBN: 9781784743079
  • Imprint: Chatto & Windus
  • Format: Hardback
  • Pages: 256
  • RRP: $32.99

Some Body to Love

A Family Story




A life-affirming and important memoir about the changing shape of gender and society from a popular and beloved author

'A treatise on empathy and grace in extraordinary circumstances' Jojo Moyes

'Today I sat on a bench facing the sea, the one where I waited for L to be born, and sobbed my heart out. I don't know if I'll ever recover.'

This note was written on 9 November 2017. As the seagulls squawked overhead and the sun dipped into the sea, Alexandra Heminsley's world was turning inside out.

She'd just been told her then-husband was going to transition. The revelation threatened to shatter their brand new, still fragile, family.

But this vertiginous moment represented only the latest in a series of events that had left Alex feeling more and more dissociated from her own body, turning her into a seemingly unreliable narrator of her own reality.

Some Body to Love is Alex's profoundly open-hearted memoir about losing her husband but gaining a best friend, and together bringing up a baby in a changing world. Its exploration of what it means to have a human body, to feel connected or severed from it, and how we might learn to accept our own, makes it a vital and inspiring contribution to some of the most complex and heated conversations of our times.

'Insightful and wise, generous and kind' David Nicholls

  • Published: 15 March 2021
  • ISBN: 9781784743079
  • Imprint: Chatto & Windus
  • Format: Hardback
  • Pages: 256
  • RRP: $32.99

About the author

Alexandra Heminsley

Alexandra Heminsley is a journalist, broadcaster and ghostwriter. She lives in Brighton.

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Praise for Some Body to Love

A sensitively written, wise and joyful look at the way that families can crack apart and then reconfigure... [Heminsley's] telling of their family tale is so warm, observant, and kind, and perfectly illustrates how malleable love can be

Farming Life

A brave, thoughtful and timely book -- calming and inspiring on our different relationships with our bodies, and vitally compassionate on trans rights

Naomi Alderman

Breathtakingly honest, warm and generous, Some Body To Love is a testament to how family and love can be whatever shape we want them to be

Sarra Manning, Red

It took my breath away . . . It's such a beautiful book, so full of compassion and kindness even in its furious honesty . . . You are going to love it

Bryony Gordon

A book about how a personal crisis caused someone to open up rather than shut down . . . really admirable and carefully done . . . on bodies, families, gender identity, bravery

Amy Liptrot

This memoir is going to change a lot of people's lives, and I think it's going to change the conversation

Damian Barr, Big Scottish Book Club

Wise, kind, funny, sad and beautifully written. Everyone who occupies a human body should read it

Erin Kelly

Fabulous . . . Sensitively and cleverly written . . . remarkable

Judy Murray

The most moving and real account of a person's relationship with their body I have ever read... A book with a wild, deep, joyous, tender love of people at its heart

Emma Jane Unsworth

A much needed clarion call for greater empathy, compassion and respect for humanity

Daisy Buchanan

Alexandra Heminsley understands what it is to be a woman in a world that judges us, our bodies, and the experience of these bodies, in every way and at all times... Charting her journey to her own body through loss, heartache and trauma, alongside love, friendship and hope, she suggests that each of us might find our own way to embody our deepest truths, and that we might do so with generosity to others on their own journey

Stella Duffy

A gorgeous open-hearted read but also a vital, instructive one

Caroline Sanderson, Bookseller

A raw, heartbreaking, uplifting memoir about reinvention, being a woman and love in all its forms. An important book, beautifully written

Kate Davies, author of In at the Deep End

Heartbreak and happiness sit in tandem in Alexandra Heminsley's wise and generous book . . . . As Alex slowly reconciles herself to the loss of a husband, she recognises that the three of them will still be a family and that, despite the trauma, she is once again happy in her own skin

Eithne Farry, Daily Mirror

A vital call for compassion and awareness . . . a hugely hopeful and deftly written book - and one that might encourage greater empathy in how we respond to all kinds of difference

Gwendolyn Smith

[Heminsley] writes with unflinching clarity

Brian Morton, Tablet

Staggering . . . This is a world turned upside down . . . Heminsley is unflinching in her exploration of her feelings . . . Her Hollywood ending is her realisation that she doesn't have to blame herself for her situation; rather it is society's fault for creating a world where people like D are scared to express their gender identity

Daisy Goodwin, Sunday Times

[An] insightful memoir

Joanne Finney, Good Housekeeping

Bracingly honest...big-hearted... [and] page-turningly compelling

Holly Williams, Observer

Generous, calm and thoughtful . . . Some Body to Love argues cogently for greater openness and understanding towards different gender expressions . . . also page-turningly compelling

Holly Williams, Observer

This insightful memoir covers some hefty subjects -- gender identity, body image, infertility, divorce -- with wisdom and grace

Good Housekeeping

Some Body To Love is an honest and thoughtful memoir that touches on difficult contemporary topics . . . Incredibly moving and very, very powerfu

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