- Published: 3 March 2014
- ISBN: 9780099583561
- Imprint: Vintage
- Format: Paperback
- Pages: 320
- RRP: $19.99
How Should a Person Be?















- Published: 3 March 2014
- ISBN: 9780099583561
- Imprint: Vintage
- Format: Paperback
- Pages: 320
- RRP: $19.99
Helen Fielding made it funny and fictional in Bridget Jones's Diary; Elizabeth Gilbert did it without laughs in Eat, Pray, Love. Now in this mashup of memoir, fiction, self-help and philosophy, Sheila Heti has added a bit of a story, quite a few blow jobs and some cheeky exclamation marks, and finally made it credible
Guardian
A really amazing metafiction-meets-nonfiction novel
Lena Dunham, star and creator of HBO series 'Girls'
A beguiling "novel from life" about creativity and authenticity
Guardian Pick of 2013
Funny, bawdy and fiercely original, this is the book everyone's talking about - and for good reason
Easy Living
A shamelessly funny read that's got all of America talking
Grazia
Part of a growing movement to explore the messiness, self-consciousness and doubt of young women who have been told the world offers them unprecedented opportunity, and who are discovering just what that means
Kira Cochrane
It will be one of the most talked-about books of 2013
Irish Tatler, 2013 Hot List
Original...hilarious... Part confessional, part play, part novel, and more-it's one wild ride...Think HBO'S Girls in book form
Marie Claire
Utterly beguiling: blunt, charming, funny, and smart. Heti subtly weaves together ideas about sex, femininity and artistic ambition. Reading this genre-defying book was pure pleasure
David Shields, author of Reality Hunger
Heti is taking a hard look at what makes life meaningful and how one doesn't end up loveless and lost. It is book peopled by twentysomethings but works easily as a manual for anyone who happens to have run into a spiritual wall
The Paris Review
Sheila Heti's vaguely autobiographical new novel might make her the Joan Didion of the "Girls" generation
Salon
It's a bawdy, idiosyncratic novel about art, sex, Toronto, female friendship and the endless quest to learn how to live. The title makes me quake with envy. All good books should be called just that...
Chad Harbach, author of The Art of Fielding
What's compelling about the book is certainly its raw interrogation of the process of creating both a work of art and an artist's personality
Telegraph
How Should a Person Be? is a question to be revisited by the author herself, or another writer, or many other writers - but it's also the question novels were invented to respond to. Sheila makes it ugly to clear a space: for novels to be less fictional, for women to dream of being geniuses, for a way of being 'honest and transparent and give away nothing'
Joanna Briggs, London Review of Books
Genuinely laugh out loud
Daily Mail
Utterly now
Claire Allfree, Metro
A sharp and unsentimental chronicle of what it is like to be a 20-something now.Heti's mordant take on modernity encourages introspection. It is easy to see why a book on the anxiety of celebrity has turned the author into one herself
Economist
Joyously self-conscious.profoundly ironic.or, perhaps more accurately, it is a production profoundly concerned with how to live authentically in a world saturated by irony
Olivia Laing, New Statesman
She's at her best when she turns outwards to faux-innocent criticisms of the creative and slightly self-regarding circles she moves in. Read this for the jolt between reality and fiction and as an attempt at mapping the complicated emotional terrain best friendships can be
Emerald Street
Ambitious, assured and ruthlessly controlled.exhilarating
Richard Beck, Prospect
Witty, unusual, raw.a powerful read.a classic in the making. Its montage of thoughts and emotions, written in the fearlessly true voice of its author, lend the book an unmistakable honesty and make it a truly original memoir as well as a great novel in its own right
Stylist
An unconventional blur of fact and fiction, How Should a Person Be? is an engaging cocktail of memoir, novel and self-help guide
Grazia
A candid collection of taped interviews and emails, random notes and daring exposition.fascinating
Sinead Gleeson, Irish Times
Terribly compelling
Hollie Williams, Independent on Sunday
Occasionally magical.this is an undeniably strange and unique book
Doug Johnstone, Scotsman
Genuinely provocative, funny and original
Hannah Rosefield, Literary Review
A serious work about authenticity, how to lead a moral life and accept one's own ugliness
Richard Godwin, Evening Standard
An exuberantly productive mess, filtered and reorganised after the fact.rather than working within a familiar structure, Heti has gone out to look for things that interest her and "put a fence around" whatever she finds
Lidija Haas, Times Literary Supplement
We may suspect this is barely fictionalised autobiography and we may well be right, but it's very witty barely fictionalised biography
Michael Conaghan, Belfast Telegraph
A sharp, witty exploration of relationships, art and celebrity culture
Natasha Lehrer, Jewish Chronicle
Uniquely honest, funny and clever... Heti is superbly truthful and shockingly funny - no words were minced in the making of this strange, brilliant book
Kate Saunders, The Times
Written with an occasionally wince-making and thoroughly commendable honesty.it's a timely, gloriously messy, openhearted, clever and beautiful new thing
Dazed & Confused
[Sheila Heti] has an appealing restlessness, a curiosity about new forms, and an attractive freedom from pretentiousness or cant.How Should a Person Be? offers a vital and funny picture of the excitements and longueurs of trying to be a young creator in a free, late-capitalist Western City.This talented writer may well have identified a central dialectic of twenty-first-century postmodern being
James Wood, New Yorker
Funny.odd, original, and nearly unclassifiable.Sheila Heti does know something about how many of us, right now, experience the world, and she has gotten that knowledge down on paper, in a form unlike any other novel I can think of
New York Times
A book that risks everything... Complex, artfully messy, and hilarious
Miranda July
There's something endearing as well as disquieting about Heti's willingness to exploit her own vulnerability.her book has a freshness and verve that make you wonder where she will go next
Irish Times
A humorous, quixotic quest for selfhood in a generation that seems defined by celebrity, triviality and Paris Hilton's sex tapes
Claudia Yusef, Sunday Telegraph
Playful, funny, wretched and absolutely true
The Paris Review
Original...hilarious...Part confessional, part play, part novel, and more-it's one wild ride...Think HBO'S Girls in book form
Marie Claire
Engaging
Scarlett Thomas, Guardian
Sheila's clever, openhearted commentary will draw wry smiles from readers empathetic to modern life's trials and tribulations
Eve Commander, Big Issue in the North
Amusing and original
Mail on Sunday