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  • Published: 21 February 2013
  • ISBN: 9781448113507
  • Imprint: Vintage Digital
  • Format: EBook
  • Pages: 224

Give Me Everything You Have

On Being Stalked

A true and terrifying account of life as a stalker's obsession.

A true story of obsessive love turning to obsessive hate, Give Me Everything You Have chronicles the author’s strange and harrowing ordeal at the hands of a former student, a self-styled ‘verbal terrorist’, who began trying, in her words, to ‘ruin him’. Hate-mail – much of it violently anti-Semitic – online postings and public accusations of theft and sexual misconduct, have been her weapons of choice, and, as with more conventional terrorist weapons, have proved remarkably difficult to combat.

James Lasdun’s account, while terrifying, is told with compassion and humour, and brilliantly succeeds in turning a highly personal story into a profound meditation on subjects as varied as madness, race, Middle-Eastern politics, and the meaning of honour and reputation in the internet age.

  • Published: 21 February 2013
  • ISBN: 9781448113507
  • Imprint: Vintage Digital
  • Format: EBook
  • Pages: 224

About the author

James Lasdun

James Lasdun’s books include The Fall Guy and Give Me Everything You Have: On Being Stalked. He teaches creative writing at Columbia University and reviews regularly for the Guardian. His work has been filmed by Bernardo Bertolucci (Besieged) and he co-wrote the films Sunday, which won Best Feature and Best Screenplay awards at Sundance, and Signs and Wonders, starring Charlotte Rampling and Stellan Skarsgård.

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Praise for Give Me Everything You Have

What is...most riveting about this strange and unsettling book is not the grim fascination of Lasdun’s situation; it’s the moral intelligence and intensity with which he examines it.

Mark Oâ??Connell, Observer

Give Me Everything You Have is a reminder, as if any were needed, of how easily, since the arrival of the Internet, our peace can be troubled and our good name besmirched.

J. M. Coetzee

James Lasdun’s extraordinary tale of erotic obsession is so gripping...there is no greater narcotic than insanity combined with lust

Camilla Long, Sunday Times

A riveting memoir... This must be the most informative, the most insightful, and the most beautifully written of any account from the victim’s perspective of what has come to be called "cyberbullying".

Joyce Carol Oates

An extraordinarily odd and disturbing story… The poet in him is skilled at following tiny snags of thought into marvellous, rich mini-essays.

Jenny Turner, Guardian

[Lasdun] has created an elaborate tale of psychological warfare and survival, a gripping testament to the axiom that despite its risks in the twenty-first century, writing well is still the best revenge.

Elaine Showalter, Times Literary Supplement

It is [his] willingness to appropriate his worst experience that shows Lasdun’s true courage as a writer and that enables him to turn his book into something more than just another memoir.

Adam Kirsch, New Statesman

On every page, Lasdun’s prose is absorbing, involving and perfectly expressed.

Scott Bradfield, New York Times

Being cyber-bullied is terrifying; Lasdun, who is an excellent writer, conveys this beautifully… In brief: some people are crazy. The internet can amplify their crazy thought. Mud sticks. Hence this book, which is brilliant.

William Leith, Spectator

James Lasdun’s Give Me Everything You Have is an autobiographical work, rare, beautiful, bitter, and profoundly accepting of his own experience: a former female student stalks him viciously for years. The story Lasdun tells is applicable to all human experience.

Paula Fox

A striking account by this feted writer and poet of being cyberstalked.


An elegant meditation on insecurity and paranoia.

Gerald Jacob, Sunday Telegraph

I expect it to be as brilliantly written as it is chilling.

Rachel Cooke, Observer

The invisible thread of the deeply personal runs throughout.

David Robinson, Scotsman

A thoughtful and courageous memoir.

Jane Shilling, Daily Telegraph

As personal as a memoir can get.


Fascinating and creepy.

Brian Donaldson, Glasgow Herald

James Lasdun’s Give Me Everything You Have is a classic of true crime. It is an account of a long and terrifying ordeal in which the author has, for years, been stalked, threatened and defamed by an obsessed woman, an ex-student of his. I had selected Give Me Everything You Have from the tall stack of books next to my bed for a nightcap read but was up until dawn with it. The author recounts the details of this spectacular persecution with wisdom, moments of humor, and grace.

Norman Rush

What makes the book interesting…is not the grisly details of the exchange but Lasdun’s thoughtful analytic prose as he tries to process the strange assault that threatened to engulf his life.

Miranda Collinge, Esquire

As with any kind of bullying, the victim, simply by virtue of being victimised, becomes an object of scrutiny and self-scrutiny. In writing his book, Lasdun has perhaps finally illuminated that personal darkness, and shone a light for anyone who’s ever experienced anything similar.

Olivia Cole

Give Me Everything You Have is as compelling as it is terrifying, a book Lasdun had to write.

Malcolm Forbes, The National

Gripping and unsettling.

Sunday Times

Discomfiting, often brilliant… One of the first accounts of internet stalking, and for that reason alone it should be read.

Ian Thomson, Independent

A powerful treatise on the power of the internet as a tool for harm.

Emily Stokes, Financial Times

Terrifically good on what it’s like to feel you have lost control of your own life.

John Preston, Daily Mail

Engrossing new memoir… A fascinating and eminently readable account of his experience… The book is also an astute mediation on anti-Semitism, online harassment, the nature of obsession and the power of the written word. His measured narrative has the suspense of a psychological thriller.


In telling this tale, it feels as though [Lasdun] is giving his stalker – and us – everything he has.

Cay McDermott, Quietus

[A] luminous study of the experience of being stalked

Sunday Telegraph

Lasdun's extraordinary tale of erotic obsession is so gripping that I read the first 70 pages in one buttock-clenching rush

Camilla Long, Sunday Times

Again, [Lasdun] writes with clarity; again, his work is compelling

William Leith, Evening Standard

Haunting and unsettling to be sure, Give Me Everything You Have is a powerful piece of writing and a highly recommended read


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