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  • Published: 17 January 2023
  • ISBN: 9781761047039
  • Imprint: Penguin Life
  • Format: Trade Paperback
  • Pages: 288
  • RRP: $35.00

Click or Clash?

Discover the new connection and compatibility types that will transform your relationships – in love, friendship and work

An illuminating guide to happier relationships and greater belonging, from Australia’s leading connection scientist.

Our lives are filled with relationships and daily interactions. They form a vital part of our wellbeing. But very few of us understand how we connect best, who we are really compatible with, and why.

From the workplace, to friendships old and new, to family, to dating and long-term romantic partners, this groundbreaking book will explain and transform all of the connections in your life – the clicks and the clashes.

Using her unique Connection Type model, human connection scientist Dr Ali Walker reveals the tools for understanding your personal connection style and those of others, recognising who you are compatible with, and strengthening your sense of belonging.

Prepare to discover:

- the 17 Connection Types – including yours
- your individual frequency and intensity preferences
- why you bond easily with some people but have friction with others
- how we make friends and fall in love
- the four types of belonging (and how to achieve them)
- the three types of loneliness (and how to avoid them)
- how to communicate in true alignment with who you are.

Based on fascinating new research, and filled with real-life examples and practical advice, Click or Clash? is for anyone seeking healthy, happy, fulfilling relationships of any kind.

  • Published: 17 January 2023
  • ISBN: 9781761047039
  • Imprint: Penguin Life
  • Format: Trade Paperback
  • Pages: 288
  • RRP: $35.00

About the author

Ali Walker

As one of five children, Dr Ali Walker developed an interest in group dynamics and human behaviour early in life around a very lively dinner table. Originally a criminal lawyer, Ali has a PhD in group dynamics from the Australian National University. Ali is a mediator and the founder of Ality, a company that designs personality assessments and wellbeing platforms to identify how we connect with others and our motivational drivers. She has delivered leadership programs and workshops to over 100,000 people throughout her career across organisations such as multinational companies, government departments, not for profits, universities, schools, hospitals, corrective services and juvenile justice facilities. Ali is also the author of Get Conscious: How to stop overthinking and come alive.

Ali lives in Sydney with her husband, two sons and groodle. She is a Light type: high frequency and high intensity.

Praise for Click or Clash?

The biggest problem and barrier to success in life and business is that people simply struggle to connect with people who are not like them. You meet someone and you have an instant connection with them and you could talk all night; equally, you meet people at a social function and struggle to connect, finding yourself talking about the weather and thinking to yourself, How do I get away from here? This is where Click or Clash? comes in, from the highly regarded author Dr Ali Walker. Ali demystifies relationships and the book is full of great practical tips and personal stories to help you create strong connections and relationships.

Janine Allis, founder of Boost Juice and part owner of Retail Zoo

I have the pleasure of working with Ali Walker at the Change Room program and watching her speak on connection types. I highly recommend Click or Clash? to better your understanding of people and how they learn, understand and react to information. But more importantly, it will help you understand yourself, become more conscious and have better relationships in your life.

Anthony Minichiello, NRL ambassador and former captain of the Sydney Roosters

After reading Click or Clash?, suddenly the world made a lot more sense. I wish I had this book when I was at uni, in my first job, when I was dating, changing careers, or starting my company. It’s mandatory reading for life, love, or work. I can guarantee that once you read this book, not only will you feel seen, you’ll experience greater agency over your life, environment and relationships and have a new framework to improve them all. When you understand your Connection Type, you move beyond the simple introvert versus extrovert mentality to a scientific but easy-to-understand guide that allows you to better navigate any relationship. Your empathy for yourself and others will go through the roof and you’ll find it hard to take what someone does to you personally, ever again.

Bec Brown, author of You've Got This and founder of PR company The Comms Department

If you've ever wondered why you click or clash with someone, this book will shed light on why. More importantly, if you want to have more clicks in your life, Click or Clash? is full of practical ways to do so.

Dr Amantha Imber, author of TIME WISE

As an academic leader I have had occasion to reflect on many different leadership models. It was not until I undertook the survey for Dr Walker’s Connection Type model that I could finally say, ‘Yes, that’s me, I’m a Water type (Ripple Effect) leader!’. The model has provided me with a powerful narrative to speak to how I connect with others, my strengths and my weaknesses, in both my personal and professional life. An excellent toolkit.

Professor Leanne Piggott