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If we live in an age of equality, why are women are still left holding the baby? A revolutionary new manifesto for achieving a new equality between the sexes in family life

Today women outperform men at school and university. They make a success of their early careers and enter into relationships on their own terms. But once they have children, their illusions of equality are swiftly shattered. Shattered exposes the - often invisible - inequalities perpetuated by the state, employers, the parenting industry, and even ourselves. Drawing on the experiences of mothers and fathers both in the UK and around the world, and examining everything from work practices to relationship dynamics and beyond, Rebecca Asher sets out a manifesto for a new model of family life.


Asher is an elegant writer and a lucid thinker... This is a polemical book, stuffed full of research and case studies; yet it is gripping enough to read through the night. It left me fired up with reformist zeal

Jemima Lewis, Mail on Sunday

A furious, but immensely articulate, puncturing of the myth that the nirvana of parental equality has been achieved... An intelligent, thoroughly researched and highly readable contribution to a debate that urgently needs to be airedin the corridors of power, as well as through gritted teeth over snatched cups of bitter coffee in baby and toddler groups

Susan Flockhart, Sunday Herald

Asher wants a revolution, and her conviction is invigorating... This book should be read by parents and policymakers alike

Rachel Seiffert, Guardian

Should be required reading for policy makers and new parents alike... This is the academic counterpart to the roller coaster of emotional experience that forms the basis for books such as Rachel Cusk's A Life's Work

Rebecca Taylor, Time Out

Excellent and readable book

The Economist

I was utterly gripped. This is powerful stuff. Rebecca Asher's take of the culture of parenting is radical, original and refreshingly spirited, a heartfelt call for change

Viv Groskop, Daily Telegraph

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  • Paperback


    June 1, 2012


    272 pages

    RRP $24.99

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  • EBook


    May 1, 2011

    Vintage Digital

    272 pages

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