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  • Published: 4 September 2025
  • ISBN: 9781473553910
  • Imprint: Vintage Digital
  • Format: Audio Download
  • RRP: $18.99

Love’s Labour




Love hurts and love heals: the eagerly awaited new book about the pains and joys of love from bestselling writer and psychoanalyst, 'a combination of Chekhov and Oliver Sacks' (New York Times)

The bestselling debut from psychoanalyst Stephen Grosz, The Examined Life, was about learning to live; his much-anticipated new book is about learning to love. Grosz reveals how to navigate the obstacles – the jealousies, grievances, boredom and betrayals – which can get in the way of two people falling, and staying, in love.

From the woman who can’t post her wedding invitations and then, decades later, can’t decide whether to get divorced, to the man who struggles with feelings of guilt after his partner’s death, to the couple who dread date night after thirty years of marriage: here are candid and surprising conversations from the consulting room.

To love is to be vulnerable and be forever under threat from our desires. It is Grosz’s unerring ability, as an analyst and a writer, to locate what hides behind the pain of heartsickness, and to help his patients and his readers reach new understandings of their own predicaments. The great task of life, and the great labour of love, is to see our self and others clearly – we have the capacity to be frustrating as well as generous, cruel as well as loving. But in surrendering to one we hope to love, we find we are not defeated, but more truly ourselves.

  • Published: 4 September 2025
  • ISBN: 9781473553910
  • Imprint: Vintage Digital
  • Format: Audio Download
  • RRP: $18.99

About the author

Stephen Grosz

Stephen Grosz is a practicing psychoanalyst - he has worked with patients for more than forty years. Born in America, he was educated at the University of California, Berkeley, and at Oxford University, and now lives in London. His Number One Sunday Times bestseller, The Examined Life, has been translated into more than thirty languages.

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Praise for Love’s Labour

‘Grosz’s transfixing stories will increase your openness to and aptitude for the greatest of all emotions: you will be better at love after you read this book

Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon

‘This is a special book, full of little epiphanies. Grosz combines illuminating stories from therapy with such beautiful writing that you forget these people are his patients and not fictional characters. He reminds us how complex love is, how much it requires of us, and how many times we can misunderstand each other – and ourselves – in the process. It's a love story about the relationship between lovers, between a therapist and patient, and between us all, if we are brave enough to attempt it’

Natasha Lunn, author of Conversations on Love

'This is a beautiful book'

Nigella Lawson

'Chilling, moving, unforgettably… what a privilege it is for the reader to catch a glimpse of this process

Guardian

'Love’s Labour is a hopeful book and all the more convincingly so because it promises relatively small shifts rather than miraculous recoveries'

The Times

'Full of thought prompts and ideas that resonate long after you finish the book ... It’s a strange, thoughtful, deeply compelling book'

Pandora Sykes

‘Reading Stephen Grosz is a deep sort of pleasure, and this book's movingly told true stories left me feeling wiser and more open to life’

Oliver Burkeman, author of Four Thousand Weeks

'Full of moments of revelation that stay with you forever ... It would not be humanly possible for me to recommend his work more highly'

India Knight, author of Home

'A compressed, brilliant distillation of 40 years of clinical experience and deep thought, written to last. Grosz conveys what he knows, in all its richness, in as pithy and digestible form as possible'

Financial Times

'Stephen Grosz is a beautiful writer, a clear, compelling thinker, an observant, wise, and deeply empathetic human being'

Nick Hornby, author of Funny Girl

‘An exceptional writer and psychoanalyst … the poet laureate of human emotion’

Elizabeth Day, author of How to Fail

‘Love really is a labour: that's something they don't tell you in the fairy stories or the reality shows. But Stephen Grosz knows a lot about the pain and joy of human relationships and in this book he generously shares his wisdom with the rest of us’

Zadie Smith, author of The Fraud

'Clearly written and deeply moving. Above all, it brings the experience of psychoanalysis to life ... A humane and compelling book full of astonishing insights into his patients' lives'

Jewish Chronicle

'A profound meditation on love and healing. Powerful and important. Essential reading'

Tara Westover, author of Educated

'Another work from the master of writing about therapy. Whisper this sacrilege: he’s a significantly better writer than Irving Yalom. A book to savour, re-read and return to for new insights'

The Spectator