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  • Published: 18 June 2018
  • ISBN: 9780812989151
  • Imprint: Random House US Group
  • Format: Paperback
  • Pages: 240
  • RRP: $29.99

If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face?

My Adventures in the Art and Science of Relating and Communicating




Alan Alda, the award-winning actor and bestselling author, tells us the fascinating story of his quest to learn how to communicate better, and to teach others to do the same. With his trademark humor and candor, he explores how to develop empathy as the key factor.

Alda has been on a decades-long journey to discover new ways to help people communicate and relate to each other more effectively. If I Understood You is the warm, witty and informative chronicle of how Alda found inspiration in everything from cutting-edge science to classic acting methods. In his wry and wise voice, Alda reflects on moments of miscommunication in his own life, when an absence of understanding resulted in problems both big and small. Drawing on improvisation training, theater and storytelling techniques from a life of acting, and with insights from recent scientific studies, Alda describes ways we can build empathy, nurture our innate mind-reading abilities, and improve the way we relate and talk with others. Offering empathy-boosting games and exercises, If I Understood You is a funny, thought-provoking guide that can be used by all of us, in every aspect of our lives—with our friends, lovers, and families, with our doctors, in business settings, and beyond.

  • Published: 18 June 2018
  • ISBN: 9780812989151
  • Imprint: Random House US Group
  • Format: Paperback
  • Pages: 240
  • RRP: $29.99

About the author

Alan Alda

Alan Alda played 'Hawkeye' Pierce for eleven years in the television series M*A*S*H and has acted in, written, and directed many feature films. He has starred often on Broadway and his avid interest in science has led to his hosting PBS's Scientific American Frontiers for eleven years. He was nominated for an Academy Award in 2005 and has been nominated for thirty EMMY awards. He is married to children's book author/photographer, Arlene Alda. They have three grown children and seven grandchildren.

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