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  • Published: 7 March 2023
  • ISBN: 9781787637054
  • Imprint: Bantam Press
  • Format: Trade Paperback
  • Pages: 352
  • RRP: $35.00

Holding the Baby

Milk, sweat and tears from the frontline of motherhood





Part-memoir, part-manifesto, Holding the Baby is a hilarious and heartfelt account of the under-acknowledged post-partum period, and a rallying cry against the undermining and short-changing of new parents.

'There is a period of time during which a baby is utterly physically reliant on its parent or caregiver for survival. Some people call it the fourth trimester. Others call it a slice of pure hell. But of course, this period is not a trimester; it does not just last only three months. And it could be so much better...'

Holding the Baby is for anyone who has felt dismissed, misunderstood or short-changed during the ill-defined and underacknowledged post-partum period.

Tracing her own journey through social retreat, domestic incarceration and maternal guilt via murderous rage, Frizzell sets out to understand why we still treat early parenthood as an individual slog rather than a shared cultural responsibility. Drawing on the experience of others and the latest research, with wit and camaraderie Frizzell explores:

· What effect does parenting have on your career?

· Is health a private or public responsibility?

· How can we make childcare affordable and fit for purpose?

· If parenting is so hard, why does anyone ever do it more than once?

Wildly reassuring and radically ambitious, Holding the Baby sheds light on the ways in which we fail new parents, and offers a rallying cry that we fight for a better alternative.

  • Published: 7 March 2023
  • ISBN: 9781787637054
  • Imprint: Bantam Press
  • Format: Trade Paperback
  • Pages: 352
  • RRP: $35.00

About the author

Nell Frizzell

Nell Frizzell is a journalist, writer and Vogue columnist. She has written for The Guardian, VICE, The Telegraph, Elle, The Observer, Grazia, I-D among many others. Her first book The Panic Years is an exploration of bodies, babies and the big questions facing modern life.

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Praise for Holding the Baby

'My favourite person on the politics of parenthood. Read it and feel comforted, cheered and galvanized (even when your brain and body are melting).'

Pandora Sykes

'Exhilarating, infuriating, urgent and human ... an excellent journalistic investigation. I think this book is required reading for the child free, as it will help us to understand and support the choices of all parents.'

Daisy Buchanan

'A blazing, brilliant read, combining style and message to powerful effect ... compassionate, convincing and funny.'

Amy Liptrot

'Honest, unflinching and necessary - alleviates parental guilt and might even encourage you to forgive your own!'

Sara Pascoe

'Holding the Baby is the sanest, most gorgeous thing on capitalism's poisonous effect on parenthood I've ever read. I was hooting and hollering by the manifesto at the end. Because it's Nell Frizzell it's funny and brisk and also because it's Nell Frizzell it's urgent and incisive. It opens your eyes to a vastly healthier and utterly beautiful way to support babies (and people who used to be babies.) I'm grateful for this book.'

Rob Delaney

'Makes excellent, radical sense'

The Times

'I love Nell Frizzell's writing and I love her spirit. I devoured Holding the Baby, especially the way it combined the colour of a memoir with the intent of a manifesto. Nell has such an original, forceful and also, crucially, very funny take on parenthood in general and motherhood specifically. This is a timely and important book.'

Clover Stroud
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