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  • Published: 15 February 2010
  • ISBN: 9780099532156
  • Imprint: Vintage
  • Format: Paperback
  • Pages: 304
  • RRP: $19.99

Chastened

No More Sex in the City




'I'd had enough sex without love, maybe it was time to look for love without sex?': a witty look at twenty-first-century sex as Hephzibah Anderson seeks to resurrect romance during a year-long adventure in chastity

Like most women, Hephzibah wants to find love. But she has just turned thirty and she's single- again. Looking back on her twenties, the years seem a blur of parties and flings. Being footloose and fancy free was supposed to be fun, but somehow it kept ending in tears. Now she wonders- where was the romance?

This is a story about rediscovering romance. Forget the fly-by-night cads and unreturned calls, Hephzibah decides. Bring on old-fasioned flirting and the art of courtship. So, she takes a year off sex to find love.

She sips cocktails in Manhattan with a dark-eyed musician, and encounters unexpected temptation back in London.

Her quest has life-changing consequences when, after all, she discovers romance is still alive and well.

  • Published: 15 February 2010
  • ISBN: 9780099532156
  • Imprint: Vintage
  • Format: Paperback
  • Pages: 304
  • RRP: $19.99

About the author

Hephzibah Anderson

Hephzibah Anderson graduated from Cambridge University with a degree in English Literature and has worked as a journalist ever since. She was Fiction Editor at the Daily Mail until 2007, and wrote on debut fiction for the Observer for five years. She now works freelance as a critic, feature writer and broadcaster for various British and international outlets including Vogue, Bloomberg Muse, and BBC Radio Five Live.

Praise for Chastened

In the course of this sexless year, she flirts, texts and (platonically) romps her way through innumerable encounters...however with Chastened you get what it says on the cover: no Sex in the City

Melanie Mcgrath, The Scotsman

Much ado about nothing...but comic and honest piece written by Anderson herself

John Crace/Anderson, The Guardian

Fascinating, revealing and bravely honest work...Anderson focuses on the much-maligned concepts of love, courtship and the intimacies of chastity

Paul Blezard, The Week

Thoughtful and insightful. Anderson manages to avoid the expected clichés and monotony by offering a considered combination of autobiography, psychology, feminist history, anthropology and sociology in her writing

Susan Swarbrick, Sunday Herald

The elegant prose is meandering and poetic... [Anderson] imparts her wisdom with accessible and informative references

Immodesty Blaize, Guardian

Chastened is more than fashionable dinky. One hopes that Anderson will write the novels that are evidently within her

Independent

This memoir of notches not carved is surprisingly readable, displaying a melancholy tenderness and candid self-awareness rarely found in confessional writing ... Chastened feels like a genuine attempt to find a solution to a loveless life, and articulates the thoughts of many single women with a purposeful freshness

Ariane Sherine, Observer

Her book is tender, clever, heartbreaking and funny ... every single woman and man should read it before even thinking of going on a date again

Katy Guest, Independent on Sunday

this candid account.. raises questions from a world more shocked by 'chastity' than 'pole dancing'

Emma Hagestadt, Independent

This honest account is a real eye opener

Star Magazine

Heart-warming memoir which will strike a chord with women everywhere from the first page. If your love life is jaded and you want to turn things around, this will inspire you

The Sun

A bedroom confessional for the thinking girl, written with novelistic flair and offering that unbeatable diary-peeking thrill. Every woman will find herself here.

Stephanie Cross, Daily Mail