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  • Published: 25 June 2024
  • ISBN: 9781804943847
  • Imprint: Penguin
  • Format: Paperback
  • Pages: 352
  • RRP: $24.99

Us

Reconnect with Your Partner and Build a Loving and Lasting Relationship




Stop working on yourself as an individual and start working on your relationship as a couple, with the help of the renowned family therapist Terrence Real.

'The book that we all need' Esther Perel
'A road map for all of us who seek true intimacy' Gwyneth Paltrow
'A revolutionary guide to happy, thriving couplehood' Lori Gottlieb

Not much is harder than figuring out how to love your partner in all their messy humanness-and there's also not much that's more important.

At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, bestselling author and renowned marriage counsellor Terrence Real sees how it poisons intimate relationships in his therapy practice, where he works with couples on the brink of disaster. The good news: warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools.

In Us, Real shares his new science-backed skillset to transform your relationship into one that's based on compassion, collaboration and closeness. If you and your partner are backed into separate corners of 'you' and 'me', or feel like you are living 'alone together', this book will show you the way back to 'us'.

  • Published: 25 June 2024
  • ISBN: 9781804943847
  • Imprint: Penguin
  • Format: Paperback
  • Pages: 352
  • RRP: $24.99

About the author

Terrence Real

Terrence Real is the bestselling author of I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression and How Can I Get Through to You?: Reconnecting Men and Women. He has been a practicing family therapist for more than 20 years and has lectured and held workshops across the country. In March 2002, Real founded the Relational Life Institute. His work has been featured on Today and Good Morning America, as well as in The New York Times, Psychology Today, Esquire, and numerous academic publications.

Praise for Us

When I need advice, I call Terry Real. His decades of clinical experience, research, and wisdom are invaluable to my patients, colleagues and friends. Us brings his advice to life. It is the book that we all need to read to create more thriving and intimate connections.

Esther Perel

This is a wonderful, wise and witty book, consistent with cutting edge science and filled with soul and practical advice that can inspire us to discover who we can become together.

Daniel J. Siegel

This book is a road map for all of us who seek true intimacy. We can use it to heal a single relationship and to shift our collective culture.

Gwyneth Paltrow

Chock-full of wisdom, research, and innovative teachings, Us is the book every human should read in order to truly understand not just their partners, but themselves.

Lori Gottlieb

Terry Real's work is nothing short of miraculous. In Us, he delves into the dynamics of modern relationships with precision and wisdom, offering practical tools to create true closeness with others. His work has quite simply changed my life. Read this book. It could well change yours.

Bradley Cooper

This is a stunning book. A masterpiece from a master psychotherapist.

Rick Hanson

[An] enveloping and insightful book . . . Real is a natural storyteller, pointed, jovial, and funny. If you're struggling in your relationship and are open to hard truths, delivered with compassion and zero wasted time, Real is the ticket.

Esquire (Best Wellness Books)