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  • Published: 15 February 2001
  • ISBN: 9780091856694
  • Imprint: Vermilion
  • Format: Paperback
  • Pages: 192
  • RRP: $22.99

Stop Arguing, Start Talking

The 10 Point Plan for Couples in Conflict


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A step-by-step guide that offers invaluable help and advice from Relate, the experts in couple counselling.

For some people, a disagreement with a loved one is a catastrophe, a sign that a relationship must surely be over, for others a heated discussion is a way of letting off steam, a way of ensuring that passion is kept alive. But what is 'normal' communication for couples? How can you get past the raised voices or silent disapproval, to listen and understand what is really being said by your partner? Relationships change over time, and the way we communicate does too. This practical, readable and sometimes humorous book, based on over 60 years cumulative experience from Relate, the marriage guidance experts, will help couples to break free of old patterns of behaviour and avoid using words as weapons when the going gets tough. It will help encourage upfront discussion rather than resorting to nagging, and will give you the skills you need to understand what your partner is really trying to say to you - to bring discussion rather than confrontation back into your relationships.

  • Pub date: 15 February 2001
  • ISBN: 9780091856694
  • Imprint: Vermilion
  • Format: Paperback
  • Pages: 192
  • RRP: $22.99

About the Author

Susan Quilliam

Susan Quilliam is a relationships expert with over 35 years' experience in offering support through her work as a writer, coach, trainer, consultant and commentator. Susan works closely with Relate, is an Ambassador for Relate Cambridge and with them has written two books for Vermilion, The Relate Guide to Staying Together - which the Times described as "the only relationship book you'll ever need" and Stop Arguing Start Talking, which is currently Relate's best selling book. She sits on the Advisory Boards of the Sexual Advice Association and Women's Health Concern and is on the Council for Sexuality and Sexual Health for the Royal Society of Medicine. She is also one of the Family Planning Association's designated 21st Century Achievers, UK Dating Expert of the year 2015, and a Patron of the Outsiders charity which campaigns for sexual rights for the less-abled. Susan is an advice columnist for Fabulous magazine as well as broadcasting and presenting internationally on topics surrounding love and sexuality.

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