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So sad today? Many are. Melissa Broder is too. How and why did she get to be so sad? And should she stay sad?

So sad today? Many are. Melissa Broder is too. How and why did she get to be so sad? And should she stay sad?

She asks herself these questions over and over here, turning them into a darkly mesmerising and strangely uplifting reading experience through coruscating honesty and a total lack of self-deceit.

Sexually confused, a recovering addict, suffering from an eating disorder and marked by one very strange sex fetish: Broder's life is full of extremes. But from her days working for a Tantric nonprofit in San Francisco to caring for a severely ill husband, there's no subject that Broder is afraid to write about, and no shortage of readers who can relate. When she started an anonymous Twitter feed @sosadtoday to express her darkest feelings, her unflinching frankness and twisted humour soon gained a huge cult following.

In its treatment of anxiety, depression, illness and instability; by its fearless exploration of the author's romantic relationships (‘romantic’ is an expanded term in her hands); and with its inventive imagery and deadpan humour, So Sad Today is radical. It is an unapologetic, unblinkingly intimate book which splays out a soul and a prose of unusual beauty.


So Sad Today is desperately honest. Broder lays herself bare but she does so with strength, savvy, and style [and] reveals so much about what it is to live in this world, right now

Roxane Gay

If Melissa Broder weren’t so fucking funny I would have wept through this entire book

Lena Dunham

What a decadent, hilarious, important, devastating book this is.

Jami Attenberg, author of Saint Mazie

Broder writes about the hot-pink toxins inhaled every day by girls and women … and the seemingly impossible struggle to exhale something pure, maybe even eternal … There’s a bleak beauty in the way she articulates her lowest moments


If symptoms could write, they would sound a lot like Melissa Broder's So Sad Today. Broder's angst is existential and pathological and filled with as many holes as there are things to fill it with. These strangely compelling essays are an insight into the perverse persistence of hope and humanity, even in the age of clickbait and online individualism

Nina Power, the author of One-Dimensional Woman

An utterly bewitching book and … a thrillingly tangible account of what it is to be a human being, right here, right now. I loved it. So many staggering — and difficult — observations. So many beautiful turns of phrase. There aren't many writers who can stare into the abyss and report back with humour, panache, and a rich, gutsy spirit. Melissa Broder can. It's a book I'm going to read again, and talk about, and pass on

Emma Jane Unsworth, author of Animals

Broder fully embraces the peaks and valleys of her emotional landscape … Vividly rendered and outspokenly delivered … Compulsively readable


Broder’s essays often left me with a sharp sense of feminine recognition. I would read her accounts of heartbreak, sexual dissatisfaction, and alienation and think, Same…


With irreverence and wit, Melissa Broder confronts the most hidden and grotesque parts of herself

Sarah Gerard, author of Binary Star

At once devastating and delightful, this deeply personal collection of essays is as raw as it is funny

Cosmopolitan US

Delightful ... an earnest, sophisticated enquiry into the roots and expressions of [Broder's] own sadness. Her deeply confessional writing brings disarming humour and self-scrutiny to ... an impressive range of topics: abortion and the decision not to have children, substance abuse and sobriety, experiments with antidepressants, and monogamy with a chronically ill partner

Publishers Weekly

Broder writes with the kind of honesty that can make you cringe and laugh, and then catch your breath, brought up short by a kind of existential dread


Melissa Broder: as raw as an open vein.

Molly Crabapple, author of Drawing Blood

Her poignant (and at times profane) writing remains a wonderful antidote to a constant stream of other people’s touted successes, delivered with generosity and without any judgment. This book is full of dirty secrets, all of which are transformed into something healing when they reach the light of day…The resulting collection is both gross and gorgeous, infused with explicit sexuality (content warning) and visceral ugliness, and often offers a perfect union of the two.

The Globe and Mail

From the moment I started this book, I couldn’t put it down — Melissa Broder GETS IT. This book takes the side effects of mental illness and makes them funny ... Anyone that is battling with depression, anxiety, existential dread/crises, or just anyone who has a brain should read this book.

Bethany Cosentino of Best Coast

Irreverent, ballsy, impossible to put down. With courage and humour, Broder shows us that the underbelly of self-awareness is the existential sads.

Courtney Maum, author of I Am Having So Much Fun Here Without You

A rollercoaster ride … Unsettling but compelling

The Jewish Chronicle

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  • Paperback


    June 27, 2016

    Scribe Publications

    224 pages

    RRP $27.99

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