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If little girls are made of sugar and spice and all things nice, then adult women are basically pavlova. Early in womanhood we are taught to please others, whether that is our parents or our teachers or our peers. We’re encouraged to behave nicely, follow all the rules and told that rewards will flow from that. By teenage-hood, popularity is the northern star for girls, guiding their every move. Those who achieve Peak Likeability reign supreme in the schoolyard, Queen Bees each and every one of them.
As adults, women learn to put the emotional needs of others ahead of their own. It is Mum, not Dad, who is expected to sacrifice her own fulfillment for that of her children. It is sister, not brother, who is presumed will take care of elderly relatives and drop the lasagne round when the next-door neighbour is sick.
Inevitably, the ugly shadow of these expectations infiltrates workplaces too. In the office, women stand back and let others have a turn rather than thrusting themselves forwards. We are polite, introduction deferential, helpful, and if we’re not we face social repercussions. Modesty is a mandatory workplace requirement lest women appear intimidating, pushy or, worst of all, ambitious. Where men are bold and visionary, women are aggressive and overbearing. Falling over themselves to appear nice and non-threatening, even the highest-achieving women in the world attribute their success to chance.Continue Reading