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  • Published: 18 September 2012
  • ISBN: 9781742754901
  • Imprint: Doubleday Australia
  • Format: Trade Paperback
  • Pages: 272
  • RRP: $35.00

It Doesn’t Have To Be So Hard: Secrets to Finding & Keeping Intimacy




This book will change the way you see yourself, and how you think about long-term love.

This book will change the way you see yourself, and how you think about long-term love.

We can’t get enough of doomed lovers torn apart by betrayal, taboo and violence – as long as they stay on the screen or the page. In our own beds we want the happy ending.

But all around us, divorce statistics rocket as the hopes of lonely singles plummet. In an age of financial and political uncertainty, love is the only thing left to believe in. So why do we give up on it so easily?

Through interlocking stories that are moving, funny and all too familiar, Joanne Fedler and Graeme Friedman combine their years of personal and professional experience to tackle the toughest of questions around intimacy, such as:
- How does romance sour into incompatibility?
- Are men really frightened by intimacy?
- Why don’t women understand that sex is intimacy?
- Is staying in an unhappy relationship better than being alone?
- How do we keep passion and intimacy alive with the same person over time?

It Doesn’t Have To Be So Hard will change the way you see yourself, and how you think about long-term love. Finding and keeping intimacy is a massive challenge. But it’s not impossible, once you know the secrets.

  • Published: 18 September 2012
  • ISBN: 9781742754901
  • Imprint: Doubleday Australia
  • Format: Trade Paperback
  • Pages: 272
  • RRP: $35.00

About the authors

Graeme Friedman

Graeme Friedman is the author of two non-fiction books, various short stories, and a novel, The Fossil Artist (shortlisted for the 2011 Commonwealth Writers Prize). He has practised as a clinical psychologist for over 25 years.

Joanne Fedler

Joanne Fedler is a full-time mother and writer, former law lecturer and advocate for women's rights. She is the author of six books and the co-founder of Moonstone Media. She grew up in Johannesburg and now lives with her husband and two children in Sydney.