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  • Published: 1 June 2021
  • ISBN: 9781784164119
  • Imprint: Black Swan
  • Format: Paperback
  • Pages: 256
  • RRP: $22.99

My Wild and Sleepless Nights

THE SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER




'What does being a mother really feel like? Clover Stroud's powerhouse of a memoir gets closer than anything else I have read to answering that question.' Alice O'Keeffe, The Guardian.
From the Sunday Times Bestselling author Clover Stroud, comes a raw, honest and deeply personal account of what it means to be a mother, touching on motherhood, identity and sexuality.

'Raw, elemental and beautiful.' Telegraph
'This is quite simply the best book about motherhood I have ever read.' - Eleanor Mills in the Sunday Times

Mother to five children, Clover Stroud has navigated family life across two decades, both losing and finding herself. In her touching, provocative and profoundly insightful book, she captures a sense of what motherhood really feels like - how intense, sensuous, joyful, boring, profound and dark it can be.

My Wild and Sleepless Nights examines what it means to be a mother, and reveals with unflinching honesty the many conflicting emotions that this entails: the joy and the wonder, the loneliness and despair.

MORE PRAISE FOR CLOVER STROUD:
'Clover's expertise is writing about family life in a way that feels both new and entirely familiar' - Pandora Sykes
'As tender, blazing, funny and unflinching as the love it describes. I want to give this triumphant book to every mother I know' - Rachel Joyce
'Stroud is always willing to rip open her very soul in order to reveal the truth about her life - and every time a woman tells the truth like this, it sets another woman free' - Elizabeth Gilbert
'I read in one greedy gulp and am still slightly reeling. Extraordinary writing... For mothers and those even vaguely interested in family dynamics it is fascinating' - Alexandra Heminsley

Charting the course of one year, the first in her youngest child's life, Clover searches for answers to questions that many of us would be too afraid to admit to - not only about motherhood, but also about female sexuality and identity. Her story will speak to all mothers, and anyone about to embark on that journey.

  • Published: 1 June 2021
  • ISBN: 9781784164119
  • Imprint: Black Swan
  • Format: Paperback
  • Pages: 256
  • RRP: $22.99

About the author

Clover Stroud

Clover Stroud is a writer and journalist writing for the Daily Mail, Sunday Times, Daily Telegraph and Conde Nast Traveller among others. She lives in Oxfordshire with her husband and five children. Her first book, The Wild Other, was shortlisted for The Wainwright Prize.

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Praise for My Wild and Sleepless Nights

Stroud writes with moving, eloquent honesty.

</i>Elizabeth Day

Stroud’s clear-eyed look at how wildness and domesticity have entwined in her life is both heartening and inspiring.

</i>Olivia Laing

Clover Stroud is a force of nature.

</i>Elizabeth Gilbert

Stroud's honesty as a writer is blistering.

Spectator

I have been waiting for a book like this for a long time. Stroud captures the very essence of motherhood in all its contradictions - the brutal loveliness of what it is to mother another, and how the act of doing so breaks us open in ways both wonderful and terrible. There are few other books about motherhood as brave, honest and beautifully written as this one.

</i>Sarah Langford, author of <i>In Your Defence

The best memoirists don’t just tell us about their lives – they tell us something about our lives, too. And Clover Stroud is one of our finest contemporary memoirists. My Wild and Sleepless Nights – her pitiless examination of her life as the mother of five children – is a masterpiece.

</i>Esther Coren

Brilliant – touching, tender, honest and so true. I don’t think I’ve ever read anything like it. It captures that hopeless sense of how much you love your children and how powerless you feel as they grow up and away from you.

</i>Eleanor Mills

A compelling read. Clover writes so beautifully and somehow manages to give shape to the mess and madness of motherhood.

</i>Lucy Atkins

I ripped through it. Bravo brave Clover Stroud, who writes about "raw and animal" motherhood in a way that make sense to me.

</i>Amy Liptrot

So raw and vivid. Clover is amazing and honest – she tells it.

</i>Rachel Johnson

The best evocation of the all-consuming, self-eroding reality of motherhood, while also being luminous with love.

Emma Beddington, The Sunday Times

Rare are the books about motherhood, rarer still; the true, the generous, tender, resonant ones. This is that book. I loved it and I love Clover’s voice.

</i>Sophie Dahl

What a beautiful writer Clover Stroud is! This honest look at the high and lows of the roller coaster that is maternal life and love is both joyous and exhilarating.

</i>Cathy Rentzenbrink

I devoured it in one gollop. Clover’s extreme honesty is a rare and lovely thing. A wonderful book.

</i>Julie Myerson

Clover’s writing is visceral and brilliant, and motherhood is her topic.

</i>India Knight

Editor's Choice: It left me both nodding and groaning in recognition as well as reeling with empathy and admiration ... there's no doubting that all the pain and glory of birthing and nurturing new beings is wholeheartedly expressed here.

Alice O'Keefe, The Bookseller

Clover Stroud writes with precise intimacy and fearless honesty. She has somehow found a wholly original way to describe motherhood and, in doing so, truly conveys what it's like, in all its messy, sexy glory.

</i>Hadley Freeman

As tender, blazing, funny and unflinching as the love it describes. At last someone has given a voice to the days spent hiding at the school gates, and scrambling for items of vaguely matching PE kit, and mouldy orange peel down the sofa, and the love that can reduce me to tears on an almost daily basis. I want to give this triumphant book to every mother I know. I want to say to them, Look what we did and we do; and it’s all in here.

</i>Rachel Joyce

Clover Stroud writes with such startling vivacity and honesty about motherhood, this book has its own heartbeat. It crackles with life - its messiness, darkness, and joy. I loved it.

</i>Eve Chase, author <i>Black Rabbit Hall </i>and <i>The Vanishing of Audrey Wilde

Clover’s expertise is writing about family life in a way that feels both new and entirely familiar. How Clover talks about motherhood is very different to the ways you see it talked about – I think we’ve got two polarised narratives in media at the moment and she fuses them together to find this new place. She’s really put into words how I feel as a mother – that it is this intense, almost sickening, love, but it is also an absolute fear that you don’t ever know how you’d live without them. I really recommend My Wild and Sleepless Nights.

</i>Pandora Sykes

The ecstasies, the agonies, the passion and the pain. Reading Clover Stroud is a whole body experience.

</i>Polly Samson

Addresses what motherhood really feels like... She writes about raising five children with honesty and poignancy, revealing universal truths along the way.

Red Magazine

BEST NON-FICTION OF 2020: Clover Stroud charts the highs and lows of motherhood in all their deep, dark glory.

Sarra Manning, RED Magazine

Brilliant motherhood memoir...Clover Stroud is one of the very best writers on the light and dark of motherhood and, if you enjoyed her debut The Wild Other, you'll love this. The book follows the first year of her fifth child's life as she juggles looking after a newborn with dealing with her teenage son's problematic behaviour. The writing is sublime and honest.

Good Housekeeping

This is quite simply the best book about motherhood I have ever read: touching, tender, honest and true. Even as she’s bracingly direct about the frustrations of motherhood, Stroud also revels in the delights. Bliss and boredom coexist side by side — and the contradictions are at the core of it all. Stroud’s book will give anyone heading out on this fearsome journey a lantern to guide the way. The book is not always pretty, and sometimes its directness is shocking, but it is full of love and honesty.

Eleanor Mills, The Sunday Times

I read in one greedy gulp and am still slightly reeling. Extraordinary writing… For mothers and those even vaguely interested in family dynamics it is fascinating.

</i>Alexandra Heminsley

Best Books of 2020: a touching guide to the joys and terrors of parenting.

The Times

What does being a mother really feel like? Clover Stroud’s powerhouse of a memoir gets closer than anything else I have read to answering that question. The motherhood she describes is the very antithesis of the sanitised, smiling vision we are sold in washing powder ads... She excels in evoking the feral, instinctive forces that motherhood unleashes... This is a vision of motherhood for the (now middle-aged) MDMA generation... The reader is simply swept up in her painful, wonderful world. Buy it, read it, and enjoy it for the wild ride it is.

Alice O'Keeffe, The Guardian

A visceral story of pregnancy and domestic mayhem...[full of] raw primal maternal energy.

Libby Purves, The Times

It's the honesty that makes this book so compelling.

Emily Hill, Spectator

Her descriptions leap off the page... It's the honesty that makes this book so compelling.

The Spectator

Clover Stroud's brilliantly unvarnished memoir finds the heroism and poetry in having kids ... Much of this book ..reads like a nature memoir, full of landscape both external and internal ... How brilliant for someone to write about the blankness as well as the beauty.

Nell Frizzell, Telegraph

Stroud's warm and honest memoir is the take on parenting we all need. An unflinching look at how to hold on to your own personality when motherhood threatens to submerge it.

i Newspaper

Clover Stroud managed to write down all of the mania in one place, making me shed a tear and honk with laughter…she writes so eloquently about all we lose as well as gain through our children.

Emma Barnett, Good Housekeeping

'Clover Stroud is a wonderful writer of the most colourful prose

ME+EM Bookclub

A beautifully written, brutally honest dissection of motherhood by a woman who has five children, from pregnancy to teenagers, covering both the extreme highs and lows. Stroud's writing examines what it is to be a woman with the same sensitive skill fans of her first memoir, The Wild Other, will recall.

Independent

My Wild and Sleepless Nights by Clover Stroud is a robust, raw and rare celebration of motherhood that had me laughing out loud one moment and crying the next.

Rachel Joyce, Observer

A captivating guide to the joys and terrors of motherhood.

Sunday Times </i>best paperbacks of 2021

An electrically candid memoir...raw, elemental and beautiful.

Daily Telegraph